aku dan feminism...

sekolah rendah
mula tak faham kenapa cikgu asyik suruh budak lelaki jadi ketua kelas. yang pasti penolong ketua kelas kena perempuan. kenapa mesti penolong eh? sama jugak dengan semua jawatan. ketua pengawas lelaki. ketua librarian pun lelaki. tapi waktu ni bodoh-bodoh lagi. hingus pun masih meleleh. apa cikgu cakap, ikutkan saja.

sekolah menengah
aku masuk sekolah menengah harian biasa, alhamdulillah masuk kelas arab. hampir-hampir tergoda dengan pujukan kawan-kawan untuk stay di kelas yang konon-kononnya ranking pertama (bukan kelas arab).
bermulalah episod berada di kelas arab. ustazah adibah kata budak lelaki kena duduk depan. aku pun tanya ustazah. ustazah kata:

ada ayat al-Quran: arrijalu qawwamuna alannisa' (an-Nisa': 24). 'lelaki adalah pemimpin kepada perempuan'.

"maka, bila duduk di depan, ia seperti syiar (lambang) yang lelaki adalah pemimpin kepada perempuan. bukan bermakna perempuan tu lemah bila Allah kata lelaki lebih kuat daripada perempuan. cuma, bila mereka memimpin, mereka ada tanggungjawab yang lebih. mereka kena 'tanggung' segala amanah dan 'jawab' atas segala yang diamanahkan".

jawapan ustazah aku amati sungguh-sungguh. sampaikan timbul kegeraman bila melihat kaum-kaum adam yang agak 'liat' untuk berada di hadapan, especially bila hadir ke majlis-majlis ilmu. lagi-lagi bila ada yang kurang sensitif pada sifat malu si hawa apabila berada di hadapan muslimin. it's a kind of a culture nowadays. perempuan yang akan berpusu-pusu ke hadapan berbanding kaum lelaki.

menara gading
Allah takdirkan aku berada di satu lapangan yang di'monopoli' oleh kaum wanita. one by one peristiwa yang berlaku menyebabkan aku rimas dengan kerenah-kerenah wanita yang terlampau beremosi ni (NOTE: BUKAN SEMUA!). tiada lagi tenang bila melihat wanita-wanita yang sedemikian (walaupun sudah berjawatan tinggi, berpangkat, dan sebagainya). tiada lagi zuqq yang aku rasa bila mereka mencurahkan ilmu. pedih telinga mendengar leteran, cacian, makian, umpatan dan kejian yang sekaligus menutup terus kesucian ilmu yang sepatutnya dipelihara oleh golongan murabbi (pendidik) ini. 'stress' dijadikan alasan untuk menghemburkan kata-kata nista pada yang tak berdosa. mungkin sebab ni perempuan tak sesuai jadi pemimpin? sila jawab sendiri..

men are from mars, women are from venus!
raikan setiap perbezaan yang ada. masing-masing ada kelemahan dan kelebihan. lelaki perlukan perempuan. perempuan jugak perlukan lelaki. timbul kepincangan bila masing-masing terlampau ego dan merasakan diri sendiri yang lebih hebat. sedangkan ramai yang lupa yang paling mulia di sisi Allah adalah yang bertaqwa, tidak kira lelaki ataupun perempuan!

p/s: agak kecewa bila ada lelaki yang seolah-olah malas berusaha dan berasa selesa dengan jumlah mereka yang sedikit. please wahai lelaki-lelaki yang beriman! buktikan pada feminist2 tu, bahawa Islam adalah syumul dan kedudukan wanita diiktiraf sungguh-sungguh di dalam Islam!

ISLAM IS THE BEST! ^_^

silent mode...

my first entry for this year, 2010. too many things happened that really struck my emotions, n eventually leaving me too exhausted to scribble down in this blog. bak kata orang, some things are better left unsaid. daripada cakap or tulis anything that will annoy other people, lebih baik diam, right? hihi.

back to school again!
it was so fascinating. sungguh seronok dapat kembali ke sekolah. one night experience in Maahad Kajang, was truly amazing. alhamdulillah, berjaya collect 160 samples in less than 2 hours. thanks a lot to adik farah n hafizuddin yang bertungkus lumus melayan kerenah kakak yang seorang ni. A.hud jugak sebab setia menunggu di dalam kereta. hihi. God Bless!

finally the hardships of collecting the data in SMK Bandar Baru Bangi ended yesterday. fuh, sungguh penat berulang alik dari kuantan ke bangi (pura-pura penat, sebenarnya seronok yang lebih). paling seronok bila guna alasan collect data untuk balik rumah. "eh, hum balik lagi?" common question asked to me. skema jawapan:"a'ah, nak collect data (sambil buat muka kasihan, dan serba salah, walhal dalam hati sangat gembira yang tak terkata ^_^)"

despite all the money that i had spent untuk balik (owh, sudah hampir pokai), i really enjoy this whole thing of going to the schools.

i am not done yet
there are still plenty of things to be done. but yet, the time left is so limited. after this, the catastrophic part (na'uzubillah) of analyzing the data will begin. huhu. semoga segala urusan dipermudahkanNya.

p/s: will be going back to kuantan tomorrow. kemalasan melanda. *_*

percutian yang amat seronok!

it was supposed to be a.hud & k she's honeymoon. but, it ended up aku n iqah pun muncul sekali. ini semua gara-gara the spooky house. hihi. sangat-sangat best! the breathtaking view berjaya melapangkan fikiran yang agak kusut kebelakangan ni. alf syukran abg hud n kak she ^_^ (iqah too, for making me realize how talented i am in taking the pics. hee)

so, who's next? hihi

mabruk, ya akhi!

Muhammad Hud & Nur Hasiba

18th dec 2009 / 1 muharram 1431 hjr

kota bharu, kelantan

congrats abg hud n kak she. berakhir sudah zaman bujang abangku yang seorang ini. hihi. semoga sentiasa beroleh mawaddah dan rahmah.

Barakallahu lakuma... barakallahu 'alaikuma... wa
jama'a bainakuma fii khair

mencintai bumi UIAM

this semester will be my final semester in IIUM. to be frank, only now i do realize how grateful i am to be in this garden of knowldege and virtue...

how i end up studying in here

menyorot kembali sejarah lama... lepas spm, dapat offer ke pusat asasi UM. tapi, aku berkeras kat mak n bapak, aku taknak pergi sebab nak tunggu offer UIA. (haha... i don't know what's in my mind at that moment... yang aku tau, aku mesti masuk UIA, even though i know nothing about UIA... humm, apakah?^_^)

my best years

i can say that being in matric pj for two years was my best years of life. i really love the environment. tempat yang aku sungguh gilai dan rindui -the LIBRARY-. bila takde kelas, sangat-sangat suka duduk di library. yang pelik, bukan untuk study subjek-subjek pelajaran, tapi searching for all genre of books. tempat baca surat khabar, a.k.a. "kapal terbang" (kak timah n ija should know this) pun dah cukup untuk menghiburkan hati aku. other than that, konsert nasyeed yang sangat banyak! i think i never miss any one of it. hoho. semua pun aku layan

ramadhan.... kenangan yang teramatlah indah apabila berterawikh di masjid sebelah UIA tu. not only during ramadhan, even waktu-waktu biasa pun rasa terpanggil-panggil untuk ke masjid tu (walaupun sisters takdela berpeluang untuk ke sana sekerap brothers... hu. sigh~)

kuantan..oh..kuantan...

what can i say after i entered kuantan campus? masjid? dari first year sampaila dah final semester ni, tiang-tiang ceracak masih lagi tersergam indah... library? buku-buku yang ada, tersangatlah limited... konsert nasyid? boleh dibilang dengan jari...

ria said: maka bersyukurlah!

apa yang tiada sering dikesalkan. inilah fitrah manusia, kan? tapi aku tak mau jadi manusia yang kufur. maka, hum, bersyukurla dengan apa yang ada di bumi UIAM ni. rasa sangat teruja bila baca entry dalam blog ibu neli menara gading..menara ilmu... al-azhar, havard dan uiam.

my dear friends,

people look up upon us- the IIUM graduants! UIAM berjaya melahirkan ramai para ilmuan. Triple ICE, satu konotasi yangtak mungkin aku jumpa di mana-mana universiti pun kat Malaysia ni. by holding firmly on the IIUM vision and mission, percayalah, anda bisa menjadi seorang Muslim yang super hebat! (kalau tak percaya, check semula visi dan misi UIAM. hihi)

manfaatkan segala apa yang kita perolehi di bumi UIAM ni. even though we may not find the true picture of IIUM among some of the residents, why don't we, ourselves become the true image of IIUM itself - potraying the true colours of IIUM - the garden of knowledge and virtue

note: pastinya jadul ber'bulu' bila baca entry aku kali ni.. hahaha

Becoming a housewife?

i came accross a very interesting article written by Maria Zain in Forward magazine (Issue 41, Nov 2009); entitled The Dying Birth Rate - and its abstract debate.

i will not be nagging about how exactly men and women are responsible for the declining birth rate, etc, but i would like to share a very interesting point that really caught my attention..

"for women who want to stay at home for the sake of their children, they should be allowed to, without being belittled or marginalised. feminists have been busy campaigning for equal rights to education and employment. so women should have the equal rights to be home-makers if they wish to be" Maria Zain

being forced to go to work

i heard too many opinions regarding this issue from my colleagues. and don't be surprise if i can conclude that 3/4 of them have a dream of becoming a housewife. some may find it as the best way to find serenity, and the other may find it as a way out from their stressful life as a student (i.e. quit from studies, get married and stay at home. is it as simple as this?).

apparently, most women out there are being forced to go to work, especially due to the social expectation, where women should venture outside of their homes and search for employment. familiar with these statements?

"it's good to work"

"it's great to earn money, especially when you had already put all your effort in your studies. if you don't go to work, it will be such a waste."

"it's for your own good. at least you will have 'back up' if something happen to your spouse"

successful women are always seen as those depicted with flourishing careers, a late marriage and even later children. while women who stay at home, cook family meals and keep the house clean are perceived as uneducated and not have the qualification to get a job.

it's pretty pathetic that most of the women out there work because the surrounding expect them to work (not because of their own passion or interest). their parents expect them to work. their in laws expect them to work, the government expect them to work, and even sometimes the husband expect them to work as well. in short, women are being discouraged from taking care of their family home and their children.

make your own choice

it doesn't matter whether a woman goes to work or not. it is just a matter of how the woman play her roles effectively, either at the office or at home. it would be great if a woman can jump into the society, contribute her skills and wisdom for the betterment of the ummah; but to look down on those who stay at home, doing the full-time childbearing chores; is totally not a right thing to do. don't forget that the "good housewives" are the ones that contribute in creating a loving environment at home and producing more high quality human capitals to our nation for the next generation.

thus, we should not expect that every woman to go to work nor every woman should be a housewife because every individual is different, thus making every family unique. instead, make your own choice. figure out which will bring out the best within you. there is no right or wrong answer in this case. create better lines for open communication within the marriage so that you and your spouse will come to a consensus to make the best decision.

note: me? please don't ask ^_^. now, i am still struggling to finalize the proposal for my final year project. having 3 minutes of consultation with prof kamaruzaman is so worth it. even though we have to make zillions of appoinments (the price we have to pay since he is the campus director ^_^), i am so glad to have him as my supervisor (mode bersemangat). plus, have to work on our resume during this semester break. resume? (diminishing the thought of becoming a housewife??? haha)

Labbaikallahumma labbaik...

"i saw a local Arab who was looking for his shoes. when he couldn't find it, he looked at me and said with a grin on his face "Alhamdulillah", "sadaqah".

instead of getting upset and cursing, he is thankful and considers that he just made a donation. it was a miracle that he can remain thankful even something bad has happened to him and he had to walk home barefoot. this kind of things is something that you read in books on the character of the Prophet s.a.w and his companions but I witnessed it being practiced with my own eyes."

this was an experience of a man who was so baffled as to what good deeds he had done to deserve him of being in the most blessed place on earth, Baitullah.

being "honoured" by Allah
All the pilgrims are actually the 'honoured' guests of Allah. it is wrong if they they have the thought that they are worthy to be in the holy city because they have done substantial 'amal' to deserve such an honour. Allah is the One that had chosen them to be there.

Long list of supplication
i could still remember a few years back, when my uncle and aunt went to Mecca for hajj. they were asking me what i would like to entrust them to make supplication. "erm, 4 flats for every semester, and becoming more prosperous". it was simply uttered out and thus my supplication was included along with other "worldly" long list of supplications that they brought to hajj.

only now then, i do realize how most of us are longing for divine intervention in the worldly problems we are facing: cure of sickness, better wealth and prosperity, securing government contract, good zauj/ah and so on.

it's very rare to find people entrusted the pilgrims to ask for forgiveness for them. i myself at that moment did not put repentance as my first priority. what i falied to realized at that moment was that the only thing that a servant should really wish for with all his/her heart is forgiveness for all the mischief he/she have done on this earth. the most precious thing that one can have is the realization of repentance.

only now, we seek for His help
most of us pray the obligatory five daily prayers and if we do anything extra, it is because we want something from Him. we never miss tahajjud during our examination period. we refrain ourselves from the sinful gossips (is there any permissible gossip? ^_^), and other side activities that may distract our focus to finish revising the 4 months' syllabus in just 2 days. how pious we have turn into during this examination season. oh, how i wish everyday is examination day so that i can be pious all the time. ^_^

if we want to have a prosperous and good life, put the Creator first before anything else and have the conviction that whatever happens , it is for the best and Allah is for surely the best of planners.

p/s: happy eid everybody (walaupun lambat lagi). i can't explain how i feel whenever is see the sea of pilgrims in their white ihram, around the ka'abah. how lucky they are. i wonder when i will be invited by Him to be there. when i will be able to set foot n the holiest mosque and ask for forgiveness for all my sins. will i be able to be there before the 'ajl comes and take away my last breath?